I don’t know how to go out or come in

Think back to your days in school (doesn’t really matter if it’s elementary school or college). The teacher/professor is unloading mountains of valuable information to the entire class, you are furiously taking it all in, but suddenly, you don’t understand something. Whatever the teacher is explaining is flying right over your head. What do you do?
Do you raise your hand high and request, “Can we take a timeout here?”
“I’m not grasping what you just said.”
“I’m not picking up what you are putting down.”
It’s not important which phrase you would use – but it is important to discerning whether you are willing to ask for help when it is needed. Do you stick your hand high in the air and admit that you are not tracking…or do you slump down in your chair and reason, “Well, that probably won’t be on the test anyway?”
As hard as it is to fathom, being willing to admit we need help is one of the wisest and strongest things we can possibly do; even though our human nature seems to tell us that we are weak if we ask for assistance.
Now, I don’t know how refusing wisdom and a helping hand ever became a sign of strength or being “Macho”, but the reality is: it is! And that’s not just for manly men, I often encounter married couples that are floundering in their relationship – yet are unwilling to ask for help from a pastor or counselor who could come alongside and assist in improving their marriage (normally by teaching them to communicate better!).
In teaching people to be wise, by asking for help, I often reference Solomon’s story in 1 Kings 3. Today Solomon is universally recognized as the wisest man who ever lived (despite some pretty foolish decisions we see him make in the Bible!), because he asked God for wisdom…and received it!
The thing I find amazing from the story is that before Solomon requested a wise and discerning heart, he first admitted that he needed help! He was going to become King, after his father David, and in 1 Kings 3:7, he concedes that he is in way over his head! His words are, “I don’t know how to go out or come in”, but what he is really confessing is: I don’t know how to be King. I don’t have that skill set. I need help!
I pray that we can begin to grasp that lesson and apply it in our lives. Hopefully, we are the kid who will raise a hand, high, in class and request, “Could you please explain that again, because I want to gain some wisdom?”
It’s not a sign of strength or wisdom to refuse help. It is a sign of great wisdom to ask questions until we have grasped concepts, so that we can live out wise teaching in our lives as Christ followers!

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